Sunday, November 20, 2005

Update: How to Make Your Child Behave

Continuation of this post How to Make Your Child Behave

On Fox News' Big Story Weekend Edition Bret Baier had both the mother, Tasha, and daughter, Coretha, on the show, as well as Dr. Laura. Dr. Laura actually agreed that Tasha used "inventive parenting" and sees nothing wrong with what she did. She said that Tasha obviously loves her daughter enough to care about her future and because she was standing right there with her, she was not making Coretha "go through it alone."

Another doctor came on. Psychologist Jeffrey Gardare, and he stated it was a bad idea to publicly punish her that way because it would encourage other parents who might have seen them on the corner. Those parents then may be tempted try something that will not work for them and could damage their children. He also said that Tasha needed to find positive reinforcement and not to punish because it could be detrimental. Tasha let him have it..."you don't know Coretha like I know Coretha" and "traditional punishments do not work with Coretha because she becomes too comfortable with them."

I completely understand Tasha's second comment because my youngest is that way. She will be grounded from TV, computer, phone, friends, or even having her bedroom door removed, but after about 3 or 4 days, she doesn't care anymore. It's very aggravating. I may have to come up with my own version of inventive parenting! (Oh, and by the way, the removal of the door, that was her teacher's idea! It worked briefly, but not for long.)

(Quotes may not be exact as I was typing this up while watching the show.)

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